Self Knowledge – Differentiating Intuition From Conditioning

August 10, 2011 at 5:28 pm | Posted in inspiration/humour, self development/motivation, spirituality | Leave a comment
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Part of anyone’s personal development will be getting to know yourself and learning to tap into your intuition. At the beginning of that endeavor this can be a not so easy challenge to sort out “what really is intuition and what is all the other ‘crap'”?

Intuition versus Conditioning

Conditioning

To shed a bit more light on what’s driving you we need to understand conditioning. The way you are today, the way you think and behave is the result of your conditioning, your upbringing and your education. The sentences you heard from you parents, all well meant and intended, will have left a mark on your unconscious mind. Some of those statements have become guiding principles, like the policies of a company that are stored somewhere in the archive cupboard.

Years later, in present time, you are still running your ship with guiding principles and policies that might have been useful at an earlier time, but are outdated now. The crux of the situation is that they don’t update themselves, they quietly influence your everyday thinking, emoting and behaving. It’s time to clear out that archive cupboard and throw out those not really useful beliefs!

How to find limiting beliefs or guiding principles? Continue Reading Self Knowledge – Differentiating Intuition From Conditioning…

Relationship Wisdom – Staying Together Because Of The Kids

April 1, 2011 at 9:45 am | Posted in love/relationship/marriage, parenting | 4 Comments
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If you have children and are contemplating separation or divorce you will think twice about the likely consequences for them. Let’s have a look at some of the questions you need to ask yourself.

What are you role modeling to your kids?

Right or wrong

Depending on whom you ask, you will get their personal opinion of what they think is right or wrong. Let’s get this straight: there is no right or wrong in this situation. This is a very personal situation and if there was a clear-cut answer I am sure you would know it. Still, it wouldn’t make your case any easier.

Ask yourself:

  • What do I think about separation/divorce?
  • What are my past memories relating to this topic?
  • Is my concern about what others might think of me?
  • What would I think of me if I were to follow through and separate from my partner, leave the kids ‘behind’?

Children growing up with mum and dad versus single-parent families Continue Reading Relationship Wisdom – Staying Together Because Of The Kids…

Parenting Tips – Parenting With Consequences

March 24, 2011 at 5:22 pm | Posted in parenting | 2 Comments
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Parenting can be an exhausting task, especially if children and teenagers don’t easily follow the lead. Where in the past, parents used physical punishment as a way to get their kids in line, we nowadays use different ways to discipline them.

Can you be consquent as a parent?

Difference between consequences and punishment

Consequences will encourage the desired behavior where punishment accentuates what the child has done wrong. The emphasis is really different and it is important to communicate to the child what it is you do want as opposed to what you don’t want them to do. One other significant aspect is that consequences aim to keep lines of communication open where in punishment we often observe parents ignoring their children as part of the punishment.

Different consequences

There are a few different types of consequences: Continue Reading Parenting Tips – Parenting With Consequences…

Separation And Divorce – Pros And Cons

November 10, 2010 at 3:36 pm | Posted in love/relationship/marriage | Leave a comment
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Where is Dad?

Making a decision to separate or divorce has a major impact on your life, whether the decision is mutual or not. The ritual of marriage is a significant milestone in life and to undo or reverse this is similarly significant.

In a time of relationship crisis, separation and divorce might seem the only solution. Having said that, it is important to keep the whole picture, including all the different people affected, in mind. Continue Reading Separation And Divorce – Pros And Cons…

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