The Hidden Power of SMILING :-)

August 30, 2011 at 7:08 am | Posted in inspiration/humour | Leave a comment
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Check out this video – truly worth watching: The Hidden Power of Smiling

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Relationship Wisdom – You Need To Change

August 29, 2011 at 5:02 am | Posted in love/relationship/marriage | Leave a comment
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You need to change!

Wanting to change our partner is a very natural part of any relationship. Having said that, it still does not make it right or achievable. Let’s have a look at this conundrum.

Your values and conditioning

Who you are and what you believe has been shaped by your upbringing, your experiences, your past relationships, your social and economic surroundings, past and present. This is how you come to believe what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’. Based on those values you evaluate the world around you, including the people, places and things.

But isn’t it normal? Continue Reading Relationship Wisdom – You Need To Change…

Relationship Wisdom – Compatibility

August 23, 2011 at 8:07 am | Posted in love/relationship/marriage | Leave a comment
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Do we fit?

How much should you and your partner have in common? How much are you trying to change your partner? How often do you say: Well, you cannot get everything from one partner? These statements and questions are frequent when I work with clients dealing with relationship challenges. Let’s shed some light on compatibility.

Attraction

There are various different sayings or statements that go with attraction. For example: Continue Reading Relationship Wisdom – Compatibility…

Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages and their use in the Workplace

August 16, 2011 at 5:32 am | Posted in communication, love/relationship/marriage, self development/motivation | Leave a comment
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How are you showing your love?

My friend and colleague Cath Lawrence from Kandula just wrote a great post on exactly this topic: Applying the 5 languages of love in the workplace.

This reminded me of the multifaceted usability of Gary Chapman’s approach. If you want to read more about the different love languages, you can find plenty of my articles about it here (click here). His approach on teaching us how different people show love and how different people feel the love that you’re intending to show them has been an integral part of counselling couples, families and children to understand themselves and each other better.  When I’ve worked with this model with couples I have many times that they come back reporting how it not only improves their relationship with each other but also taught them something about how to relate to their work colleagues, employees, friends, children etc.

Personal Benefit

I also found that Continue Reading Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages and their use in the Workplace…

Self Knowledge – Differentiating Intuition From Conditioning

August 10, 2011 at 5:28 pm | Posted in inspiration/humour, self development/motivation, spirituality | Leave a comment
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Part of anyone’s personal development will be getting to know yourself and learning to tap into your intuition. At the beginning of that endeavor this can be a not so easy challenge to sort out “what really is intuition and what is all the other ‘crap'”?

Intuition versus Conditioning

Conditioning

To shed a bit more light on what’s driving you we need to understand conditioning. The way you are today, the way you think and behave is the result of your conditioning, your upbringing and your education. The sentences you heard from you parents, all well meant and intended, will have left a mark on your unconscious mind. Some of those statements have become guiding principles, like the policies of a company that are stored somewhere in the archive cupboard.

Years later, in present time, you are still running your ship with guiding principles and policies that might have been useful at an earlier time, but are outdated now. The crux of the situation is that they don’t update themselves, they quietly influence your everyday thinking, emoting and behaving. It’s time to clear out that archive cupboard and throw out those not really useful beliefs!

How to find limiting beliefs or guiding principles? Continue Reading Self Knowledge – Differentiating Intuition From Conditioning…

Personal Development – Inviting Self-Listening

August 3, 2011 at 4:54 pm | Posted in communication, self development/motivation | Leave a comment
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Have you listened to yourself lately?

Have you been listening to your self lately? What are you saying to yourself or out loud and are you paying attention? With everything we say, we share something about our selves. Self-listening is a key to self-knowing and self-development.

Inner talk

Your thoughts run faster than your ability to speak. If you were trying to speak everything you think you would find you struggle, as you just cannot keep up. Thoughts run automatically – day in, day out, without ever stopping. Once you start paying attention to your inner talk you might find some disturbing or unwanted thoughts running through your mind. Usually the more you wish them to stop, the more persistent they become. Continue Reading Personal Development – Inviting Self-Listening…

Your Spiritual Journey

August 1, 2011 at 12:34 pm | Posted in inspiration/humour, self development/motivation, spirituality | Leave a comment
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Overcoming our limitations

The Spiritual Journey (the path of self discovery, self knowledge and self improvement) is a marathon, not a sprint, and there will be big challenges on the journey. The challenges will not all be ones that we are capable of meeting on the first occasion. If we cannot rise to the challenge, then we will regress in our ability, and may need to start again.

Do you have the courage to start again and again?

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